Monday 25th of May, my husband has sudden illness, he does not want to talk, he does not want to eat, mouth closed .. When we asked, he only answered: hm .. hm, placed the spoon to eat or drink in a straw for the lips and he always rejected…. he does not want to be taken to the doctor, finally I call her sister to force my husband to go to the hospital. Previously, the daughter had a high temperature and diagnosed dengue fever, other child was also sick, Daniel was gondongan (mumps). So, I am afraid my husband is also experiencing dengue fever.

In the ICU, all checks have done, CT Scan, EKG, blood, and check the electrolyte, all clean and in the limit of normal. While the diagnosis: current level of depression. What causes his depression? Nobody knows. There is no problem in the office, he is happy with his new career in this one year. There is no problems at home, I think… … my husband does not want to make any communication at all, and always remove his face when we asked. We take my husband home from the hospital.

At home, many families give suggestions to me, the one that I agree to call a Priest. Priest and Penatua come to pray. I am sad and troubled heart. Quite a lot of relatives who came to turn at 3 o’clock  Tuesday morning, there are many ways to pray. My husband still does not want to open the mouth and the time that I thought, what is indeed taking place … and I feel that death is near … there are some who say the early symptoms of stroke, stroke, and if my husband can not work, what happen with me and our children, who keep and care for my lovely husband, if I go to work?

At 3 AM, Tuesday morning, relatives began to return home. His sister and her family accompany us at home. At 4 AM, my husband is again restless, he sits, wakes up, sleeps, sits, hold for almost 1 hour … and I continue to pray for him, whether he realized or not, finally, he was asleep…

 At 6 AM, he got up and thanks the Lord; he was hungry and would eat a little porridge …. Believe it or not, what’s going on yesterday? Let us keep praying, starting Monday the 1st of June, my husband entered the office and this time began to take driver, he may be tired in the turnaround at the wheel, traveling from home to office to take over 2 hours by car.

 “Tubuh mempunyai keinginan yang tidak kita ketahui. Mereka dipisahkan karena alasan duniawi dan dipisahkan di ujung bumi. Namun jiwa tetap ada di tangan cinta… terus hidup… sampai kematian datang dan menyeret mereka kepada Tuhan…”

(Kahlil Gibran) 

This article is written to answer the question, which is the best way for you to choose your marriage partner.

Marriage is a unity which combines two people from different backgrounds, become one. Nowadays, making a decision to get married for some people is rather difficult. Some people feel afraid of divorce, miscomunication or misunderstanding. To avoid all of the things mentioned above, there are some ways to choose a marriage partner.

First, we can choose a partner which has the same religion with us. If we have the same religion, we will have the same way of thinking and way of life. For example, we will go to pray together everyday to the same God. We will go to the Church on Sundays or to the Mosque on Fridays together. Also we can celebrate the Holy day with all members of our big families. It will be more peaceful in our heart and also our partner’s. Everyday, we can learn and read our Bible together. Moreover, we will do all of these with our children when we will get married and have kids.

Second, we have to learn our partner’s behavior before choosing one of them. We have to find a partner who is caring and loving to us. If we do not find this behavior on someone who we love, may be we can show him or her how to care and to love. Because we will find many difficulties later when we get married with uncaring partner. For example, they will not care when you are ill or sick or maybe when we have a problem in our job, etc.

Third, another way to choose is communication. Is she or he always helpful and open-minded and understanding? All of these things we can see or feel from our communication between me and our partner. How can we feel happy if our partner is very busy with his or her job and has no time to communicate, even by telephone, email or short message service? Please, think about it.

Finally, in my opinion, the best way to choose a marriage partner is having the same religion and he or she does the activity of his or her religion very good. I mean, he or she is religious. I am not a fanatic person, but if we find someone religious, our life will be peaceful and full of happiness. Even though, your partner and you will find many problems in your life (your marriage life). We can pray together to the same God and ask for helping us to solve or to find a solution for our problem. How could it be, if you have a partner, who never pray and trust in God? All religions in this world teach is goodness and a kindness, so I think, this is the best way to choose a marriage partner….